I am a woman (Ok... so I'm not sure I feel like a woman parse... But I'm female).
Yes, I don't think you should limit yourself to what the world thinks you should do. You shouldn't limit yourself in anything. Achieve your dreams! "Go for it!" and all that jazz...
However...
I don't think being a mother and wife limits you. AT ALL.
Yes, it makes it much harder to have a job outside the home when you're busy inside the home. But that doesn't mean you are limiting yourself by being "just" a mother.
...
So, I just watched this movie for school that was openly and blatantly feminist.
Yeah, men are paid more. Yes, women in our society aren't as valued as they should be. I get that.
But this made it sound like the women who chose to be "just" mothers were denying a part of themselves.
Well yes... Of course... How DARE you devote you life to someone else. How DARE you raise up the new generation with morals and decency....
Now, I know that once you become a mother you don't just magically become Mrs. Beaver. You still have those interests and talents that may not relate to motherhood. Cool. But I still don't think you should say that you're denying yourself by choosing to be a mother.
GR!!!
Showing posts with label rant. Show all posts
Showing posts with label rant. Show all posts
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Lions, Otters, Beavers and Penguins, oh my!
I HATE classifying things... Putting things in little boxes and saying "Ok, you're in box A. So you can't be B, C or D." I can not tell you how much I hate it... (but I'll be darned if I don't try. ^.~)
We had a fireside tonight... A very good fireside... It was on relationships and the differences between guys and gals.
So she started talking about the qualities of girls. And she said the qualities of guys. If you're a girl, you multi-task, you talk a lot, you want to be saved by your prince, you don't want your problems fixed and you just want to rant, etc.
If you're a guy you want to be appreciated... That was it...
And if you're a girl you HAVE to have those qualities. And if you're a guy you HAVE to have that quality... You can't be a mix. Oh no!!! ...*grumble*...
Then the one that really got me was the animal test. She asked two questions and divided us up into four groups. Do you feel more comfortable in a group of close friends or just a group of people? Do you rely more on yourself to make a decision or do you ask people around you?
Now, first of all. That's a really black or white answer... I hate those. -_-; I can be any one of those four! It all depends on the situation...
Second. Ok... so am I to believe that everyone in the world is only one of four things?? Humans are so predictable and monotonous that they fit into only one of four categories??
....
GR!!!
...
Yeah... I was rather annoyed you might say. ^.^;
Heh, and then people after were all "Hey, what are you? I'm a Beaver!!!11" ... "That's nice. I'm a me."
I'm sure it's my stubborn streak talking. But I really hate putting things in boxes like that where it can only be in one box, and it can't possibly be anything else...
I'm all for order. I love order. If there's not order, I stress. But I hate it when things are classified like that. People are blobs. Multi-colored, wonderful, crazy, frustrating blobs. They are not circles, squares, otters or kumquats...
*breath*
^.^; Ok... me better...
(and not that I disagreed with everything... For example, I needed to rant, and not necessarily have the problem fixed (although if you have thoughts, comment away) I just way disagreed on that.)
P.S. This goes a lot with my tendency of hating to be forced into things... Even if I want to do something, but I feel I'm being forced, I will dig in my heels and stop. Tell me what you want, and show me how, then let me do it. Don't force me, it won't work.
We had a fireside tonight... A very good fireside... It was on relationships and the differences between guys and gals.
So she started talking about the qualities of girls. And she said the qualities of guys. If you're a girl, you multi-task, you talk a lot, you want to be saved by your prince, you don't want your problems fixed and you just want to rant, etc.
If you're a guy you want to be appreciated... That was it...
And if you're a girl you HAVE to have those qualities. And if you're a guy you HAVE to have that quality... You can't be a mix. Oh no!!! ...*grumble*...
Then the one that really got me was the animal test. She asked two questions and divided us up into four groups. Do you feel more comfortable in a group of close friends or just a group of people? Do you rely more on yourself to make a decision or do you ask people around you?
Now, first of all. That's a really black or white answer... I hate those. -_-; I can be any one of those four! It all depends on the situation...
Second. Ok... so am I to believe that everyone in the world is only one of four things?? Humans are so predictable and monotonous that they fit into only one of four categories??
....
GR!!!
...
Yeah... I was rather annoyed you might say. ^.^;
Heh, and then people after were all "Hey, what are you? I'm a Beaver!!!11" ... "That's nice. I'm a me."
I'm sure it's my stubborn streak talking. But I really hate putting things in boxes like that where it can only be in one box, and it can't possibly be anything else...
I'm all for order. I love order. If there's not order, I stress. But I hate it when things are classified like that. People are blobs. Multi-colored, wonderful, crazy, frustrating blobs. They are not circles, squares, otters or kumquats...
*breath*
^.^; Ok... me better...
(and not that I disagreed with everything... For example, I needed to rant, and not necessarily have the problem fixed (although if you have thoughts, comment away) I just way disagreed on that.)
P.S. This goes a lot with my tendency of hating to be forced into things... Even if I want to do something, but I feel I'm being forced, I will dig in my heels and stop. Tell me what you want, and show me how, then let me do it. Don't force me, it won't work.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Eating a cockroach
...Ok... so I has a dilemma...
I think I mentioned in a previous post that I locked myself out of the house a while back... Well I got talking to the gal who lives there (I thought it would be appropriate... talk to the gal who's house I'm crashing at) and we got talking about books. Well her son is on a mission and loves this one series.
So while they're gathering dust, she figured I could borrow them and read them. Hey! Who am I to turn down a book? So I said yes. So she brought over a box full of books. O.o; About seven I think... I don't read fast at all, but there they were. The whole series!... minus the first one... So I looked for the first one at the library...
Long story short...er... A friend of mine had it, and I borrow it from her.
Well here's where the dilemma starts... I mentioned to another friend, Honor, that I was looking for this series. The series is by Terry Goodkind. Well apparently it's full of wonderful things like rape... ^.^; greaaaaat... But she thought that the first one was ok.
So, ok, I'll just borrow the first one and politely tell the gal who I borrowed the rest from that I don't want them. Cool, cool.
Well I get to the friend's house who I am borrowing the books from... We'll call her Fish. So I go over to Fish's house and borrow the first one. So I figure as long as I'm there I'll get her opinion on the series... Same... Only she remembers that there's stuff in the first book as well... ^.^;
More greatness...
So now I'm standing there... with this book that I now know I do not want to read... and Fish is saying "Oh, well just read what you want and when you get to where you can't take it anymore I'll tell you what happens to the characters. ^.^"
That's very sweet of her... I would love to know what happens to the characters... Did I actually want to read the book in the first place...
Now, you're probably asking yourself why I didn't just reject the book then, chuck it back at Fish and make up some excuse about leaving the oven on... Answer?... I am horribly indecisive... and if a decision is made for me, I'll most likely go along... I really didn't... don't want to hurt Fish's feelings... I did manage to mumble something about how I might not want to read it then, but then she said the thing about filling me in on how it ends. ^.^; So I felt stuck... *sigh*...
Darn my indecisive nature!! Darn it like a wool sock!
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And my mom made an interesting comment when I was talking to her about it, (I love my mom. I can talk to her about anything ^.^) and I think it goes for a lot of things.
She reminded me of that old story about the cockroach in the salad.... "Oh, just eat around it. It's ok." ... If it's in there... why do I want to chance it?? Is it worth it for this wonder salad to start munching on a cockroach leg??
I remember my drama teacher saying something like that when he was showing a movie... I told him I didn't want to watch it and he said "Oh, well just close your eyes when it gets to that point."
Um... So wait until the salad gets crunchy? Then stop eating?? ... -_-;
Also when people say "It's only..." whatever... I remember when I went to a friend's house for a birthday party and they were going to watch a movie. pg-13 I think... I don't make it a habit of watching them now and then I think I was about 9. Not 13 yet I know... "Oh, well it's only swearing."
...Only?? I'm sorry?... Oh well it's only a cockroach. It's ok, it's dead. It won't move, so you can eat around it. ^.^..............................
We have enough cockroaches in our lives without searching them out...
ARGH!!
I have spoken. :)
I think I mentioned in a previous post that I locked myself out of the house a while back... Well I got talking to the gal who lives there (I thought it would be appropriate... talk to the gal who's house I'm crashing at) and we got talking about books. Well her son is on a mission and loves this one series.
So while they're gathering dust, she figured I could borrow them and read them. Hey! Who am I to turn down a book? So I said yes. So she brought over a box full of books. O.o; About seven I think... I don't read fast at all, but there they were. The whole series!... minus the first one... So I looked for the first one at the library...
Long story short...er... A friend of mine had it, and I borrow it from her.
Well here's where the dilemma starts... I mentioned to another friend, Honor, that I was looking for this series. The series is by Terry Goodkind. Well apparently it's full of wonderful things like rape... ^.^; greaaaaat... But she thought that the first one was ok.
So, ok, I'll just borrow the first one and politely tell the gal who I borrowed the rest from that I don't want them. Cool, cool.
Well I get to the friend's house who I am borrowing the books from... We'll call her Fish. So I go over to Fish's house and borrow the first one. So I figure as long as I'm there I'll get her opinion on the series... Same... Only she remembers that there's stuff in the first book as well... ^.^;
More greatness...
So now I'm standing there... with this book that I now know I do not want to read... and Fish is saying "Oh, well just read what you want and when you get to where you can't take it anymore I'll tell you what happens to the characters. ^.^"
That's very sweet of her... I would love to know what happens to the characters... Did I actually want to read the book in the first place...
Now, you're probably asking yourself why I didn't just reject the book then, chuck it back at Fish and make up some excuse about leaving the oven on... Answer?... I am horribly indecisive... and if a decision is made for me, I'll most likely go along... I really didn't... don't want to hurt Fish's feelings... I did manage to mumble something about how I might not want to read it then, but then she said the thing about filling me in on how it ends. ^.^; So I felt stuck... *sigh*...
Darn my indecisive nature!! Darn it like a wool sock!
-----
And my mom made an interesting comment when I was talking to her about it, (I love my mom. I can talk to her about anything ^.^) and I think it goes for a lot of things.
She reminded me of that old story about the cockroach in the salad.... "Oh, just eat around it. It's ok." ... If it's in there... why do I want to chance it?? Is it worth it for this wonder salad to start munching on a cockroach leg??
I remember my drama teacher saying something like that when he was showing a movie... I told him I didn't want to watch it and he said "Oh, well just close your eyes when it gets to that point."
Um... So wait until the salad gets crunchy? Then stop eating?? ... -_-;
Also when people say "It's only..." whatever... I remember when I went to a friend's house for a birthday party and they were going to watch a movie. pg-13 I think... I don't make it a habit of watching them now and then I think I was about 9. Not 13 yet I know... "Oh, well it's only swearing."
...Only?? I'm sorry?... Oh well it's only a cockroach. It's ok, it's dead. It won't move, so you can eat around it. ^.^..............................
We have enough cockroaches in our lives without searching them out...
ARGH!!
I have spoken. :)
Friday, January 9, 2009
Worry
Inkheart...
It was a book first, now it's going to be a movie...
Anyone who's ever loved a book and had it horribly mutilated by Hollywood knows where I'm going with this...
And still... I'm cautiously optimistic... I'm actually thinking of seeing it. My mom probably won't want to go with me. (edit: I asked her, and she said she's not, lol) She's sworn to never go with me to see another movie where I've read the book... Especially since Ella Enchanted... *shudder* Bad... HISS!!...
Although, in the movie's defence, the author of the book is one of the producers on the movie. I honestly don't know how much that means... but it's something. ^.^; And from the previews I've seen, I did recognize some of the scenes... Still...
*sigh* If only Hollywood were more reliable... I realize they want to make a good story... But why do they feel the need to do it at the expense of a book!!
It was a book first, now it's going to be a movie...
Anyone who's ever loved a book and had it horribly mutilated by Hollywood knows where I'm going with this...
And still... I'm cautiously optimistic... I'm actually thinking of seeing it. My mom probably won't want to go with me. (edit: I asked her, and she said she's not, lol) She's sworn to never go with me to see another movie where I've read the book... Especially since Ella Enchanted... *shudder* Bad... HISS!!...
Although, in the movie's defence, the author of the book is one of the producers on the movie. I honestly don't know how much that means... but it's something. ^.^; And from the previews I've seen, I did recognize some of the scenes... Still...
*sigh* If only Hollywood were more reliable... I realize they want to make a good story... But why do they feel the need to do it at the expense of a book!!
Sunday, November 2, 2008
YES on Prop 8!
I probably should've posted this earlier, ya'll probably have heard about it already... But this is my blog!
Plus this helps me kinda catalog my life, and I'd like to be able to look back and see what I was thinking...
Well, Prop 8...
The entire text of Proposition 8 is as follows:"Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid and recognized in California."
(http://www.protectmarriage.com/about)
It's been turned into this giant tolerance/acceptance issue, "You have to accept my choice, or else you're a bad person!"
Ok, first of all, no. I can accept you, without accepting or even being ok with your choices. I have friends who drink and swear, that doesn't mean I agree with the choice.
Also, I believe it's a wrong choice. You can disagree, that's your choice, but I believe it's wrong. Now, I don't think it makes you a bad person. I have a few friends who are gay. But again, just because I like the person, that doesn't mean I agree with their choice.
So if I believe that being gay is a bad thing, why should I "accept" it and say, "Oh yeah, sure, call it marriage!"... It doesn't make sense. That denies my religion and my beliefs.
Thirdly, they teach about marriage in schools. If this doesn't pass, they will teach that attraction between people of the same gender is ok.
I'm all for choice. Choices are a good thing. But when you're telling little children that that's ok, before they can really make a choice about the matter... That's wrong! That denies my religion...
So I'm supposed to "accept" your choice, be ok with something that I think is wrong, and allow any future children I have to learn something that I think is wrong and deny my religion??
... *breath*
And this came out a little more ranty then I was meaning... I don't mean to offend anyone. I think it is a bad thing. That does not mean that the people are bad.
Plus this helps me kinda catalog my life, and I'd like to be able to look back and see what I was thinking...
Well, Prop 8...
The entire text of Proposition 8 is as follows:"Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid and recognized in California."
(http://www.protectmarriage.com/about)
It's been turned into this giant tolerance/acceptance issue, "You have to accept my choice, or else you're a bad person!"
Ok, first of all, no. I can accept you, without accepting or even being ok with your choices. I have friends who drink and swear, that doesn't mean I agree with the choice.
Also, I believe it's a wrong choice. You can disagree, that's your choice, but I believe it's wrong. Now, I don't think it makes you a bad person. I have a few friends who are gay. But again, just because I like the person, that doesn't mean I agree with their choice.
So if I believe that being gay is a bad thing, why should I "accept" it and say, "Oh yeah, sure, call it marriage!"... It doesn't make sense. That denies my religion and my beliefs.
Thirdly, they teach about marriage in schools. If this doesn't pass, they will teach that attraction between people of the same gender is ok.
I'm all for choice. Choices are a good thing. But when you're telling little children that that's ok, before they can really make a choice about the matter... That's wrong! That denies my religion...
So I'm supposed to "accept" your choice, be ok with something that I think is wrong, and allow any future children I have to learn something that I think is wrong and deny my religion??
... *breath*
And this came out a little more ranty then I was meaning... I don't mean to offend anyone. I think it is a bad thing. That does not mean that the people are bad.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Flustercation
... Durring work Monday, this comic would not leave my mind. >.O I had a really similar experience with a customer. (we're supposed to call them guests, but this is my blog dag-nabbit!) I forget exactly, but they were complaining about something that I had no control over. *sigh* Interesting day, that. ^.^;
And question: does everyone have problems getting all their stuff done at work? Now, I now I work slower then other people... But I'm thorough! I work hard!... But I get criticized anyway... I'm working harder then (I think) some of my co-workers, but yet I'm the one who needs special help from management... ARGH!!... Frustrating to no end...
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